The games men play on dating websites
Our automatic response is to chase when the “other” pulls away.
What was once readily available is suddenly gone, and no matter how hard we try to regain our partner’s former affection, it now seems beyond our reach. They don’t need more time to figure out their emotions. The “hot” phase begins with a bang of overwhelming recognition. Bathed in newfound attention, flattery and flirtation spark a strong attraction for this person.
A hot and cold player reverts to cold as the norm, with bursts of hot that don’t result in forward movement.
The cycles of hot and cold may make you feel like the powerless one.
You wonder what happened and begin to question every move you made. Simply put, when you pull away, they’ll re-engage you. After a cycle or two of this routine you’ll be so confused you won’t know which way to move.
But it’s just the opposite — real power is the ability to maintain intimacy.The beautiful truth is that this has nothing to do with you. There’s nothing you did, or didn’t do, that’s causing this.